"What's the F***ing Point?" — ep 29 — Lisa Olivera on being human first

Lisa Olivera is not the therapist that's going to "help" you or fix your problems... and that's exactly why she's your dream therapist.

When I started following Lisa on Instagram (@lisaoliveratherapy), I was immediately drawn to her energy and her content. We are definitely on the same wavelength in a lot of ways, which made for a really fun conversation.

I so admire how Lisa is navigating the tricky territory of self-disclosure as a therapist on a public platform, and we have a rich discussion in this episode about how the old model of rigidity around self-disclosure in the therapy room is outdated and not as beneficial in creating the kind of genuine relationship that facilitates the most healing and supportive work between clinician and client.

Lisa's personal story as an adoptee, which she shares about in the episode, will likely make you want to throw things, and then hug people... which is a testament to the work that she has done both with her own healing, and how she's been able to bring the universal themes from her experiences into a career of holding sacred space for others who are on their own paths of healing.

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About Lisa Olivera

Lisa Olivera is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist— but you might also call her an encourager of self-acceptance, a listening (like, truly listening) ear, an advocate for vulnerability, and a holder of space for hope and healing. She believes we require less fixing and more accepting – less perfectionism and more good-enough – less criticism and more self-compassion.

In her practice, Lisa supports people who want to find more acceptance in who they are, but feel suffocated by self-criticism, doubt, sadness, anxiety, overwhelm, or fear. Through holistic and integrative practices, she helps clients create more compassion for themselves, more capacity to feel the hard stuff, and more understanding of how to manage the stressors and impacts of our history, our environment, and our daily life.

You can find Lisa online at www.lisaoliveratherapy.com and on Instagram @lisaoliveratherapy.

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"What's the F***ing Point?" — ep 27 —Timothy Gordon on weaving a life of meaning

Hot damn, y'all. Words do not suffice to describe my interview with The Zen Social Worker, Timothy Gordon. This was probably my favorite conversation yet.

Grab your notebook, your tissues, and get ready for your brain to explode onto the ceiling as mine did during our call. (I am happy to report that I am now back in one piece.💁‍♀️🧠)

I can already say Tim will be a repeat guest — and on this episode, here's what we dig into:

  • How the universe kicked him out of the “safe” path and into entrepreneurship

  • Mindsets of collaboration versus scarcity

  • The impact that his adoption and trying to connect with his birth family has had on his self worth

  • The value of befriending our difficult/painful thoughts and feelings, and recognizing when that it can also be adaptive to distract or avoid

  • The importance of unhooking from our unhelpful stories and beliefs to chase the life that you want

  • Why we need to acknowledge cultural appropriation within yoga and how we can become part of the solution rather than the problem

  • The issue with viewing yoga as primarily an athletic, physical practice

  • The basics of Tantra yoga philosophy

  • How we can create a false hierarchy and patriarchy if we misinterpret yoga (or anything else for that matter)

  • Universal versus individual consciousness

  • The epistemology of yoga - why do we do what we do?

  • Ontological versus a-ontological philosophy - how do we structure our beliefs about reality?

I strongly encourage you to check out Tim's YouTube Channel, and his book (co-authored with Jessica Borushok) The ACT Approach, which won the 2018 Benjamin Franklin Award for editorial and design excellence in the Psychology category.

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About Tim Gordon

Timothy Gordon, MSW, is a social worker in Canada and internationally recognized peer-reviewed ACT trainer. He specializes in treating attachment and trauma related disorders. Tim is also a yoga teacher who integrates movement and yoga practices into his work. Tim's research has included yoga as a mental health intervention, ACT for chronic pain, and ACT with neonatal intensive care units. Tim is passionate about empowering people in various settings to use ACT, he has worked with Canada's Parliament and is involved in bringing ACT to subsaharan African countries with his colleagues at Commit and Act.

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What's the F***ing Point episode 12: Krystal of Power Femme Tarot on Socially Conscious Tarot

Whether you already love the tarot, know nothing about it, or are "tarot curious" like I've been in recent years, you're gonna dig this interview with Krystal of Power Femme Tarot.

If you've been listening to the show, you know that I'm getting increasingly interested in the tarot as a tool for self reflection and accessing intuitive guidance. I've touched on the tarot with guests in previous episodes, but this is the first all-out-tarot episode, and I couldn't have picked a better guest for it.

In this episode, Krystal and I talk about:

  • her "justice-centered" relationship with the tarot (the spiritual is the political)
  • favorite decks and being a "deck slut" :D
  • why she feels it's important to approach the tarot from a perspective of both intuition AND intellect
  • why she prescribes to the power of intention rather than the law of attraction
  • what she does for her daily draw
  • how she does long-distance readings
  • her unexpected journey from pantheism to polytheism
  • our concerns about the traditional maiden-mother-crone conception of goddess, and how we can understand the goddess in a more liberated and inclusive way
  • what's gender got to do (got to do) with it?
  • why we're both obsessed with Buffy (and the badass podcast Buffering the Vampire Slayer)
  • how and why she has made her own "little white book" for the deck
  • a card that she draws for us as a collective reading!

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**ALSO! Krystal is generously offering WtFP listeners 10% off tarot readings through the end of 2018 using the code THEPOINT18, so definitely take advantage of her unique readings!

About Krystal / Power Femme Tarot

Krystal is a New Orleans-based queer femme witch, priestess of the Morrigan, crafter of sacred tools, and professional tarot reader and teacher. She holds a PhD in Gender Studies and, in her muggle life, is a college professor. Her academic nature has led her to study tarot rigorously and joyfully since the age of 15. Krystal's lifelong personal and professorial commitment to feminism, queer politics, and social justice also shapes her approach to tarot. For Krystal, tarot bridges intuition and intellect as well as the spiritual and the political. Krystal uses tarot to crack open space for empowerment, individual and collective healing, and social change.

Krystal is available to facilitate classes and read tarot at events in the New Orleans area. She is also presently developing an online tarot for social justice course called "Tarot in the Tower." Krystal is offering WTFP listeners 10% off tarot readings through the end of 2018, and she has so many unique spreads she has created — I will be doing my first reading with her soon and will be sure to report back! The discount code is in the episode, and be sure to check out the full show notes because this one is chock full of awesome resources.

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using guided imagery to heal in recovery

using guided imagery to heal in recovery

How to use guided imagery as a tool in your recovery from an eating disorder, addiction, or trauma

Many of the most powerful experiences I’ve witnessed in session with my clients have in some way involved guided imagery. If that sounds a little new-age woo-woo for you, stick with me for a minute.

As psychologists Judith Rabinor and Marion Bilich write in Effective Clinical Practice in the Treatment of Eating Disorders, “Focused imagery, in a relaxed state of mind, has been shown to positively affect medical conditions such as cancer, to improve self-regulatory capacities such as heart rate and blood pressure, and to enhance performance in a wide variety of fields (Naparstek, 1995).”

So what exactly is guided imagery? Basically, it’s an umbrella term for any type of focused imaginative exercise that incorporates one or more of the senses (visual, auditory, olfactory, kinesthetic, and tactile). You can do some types of guided imagery on your own, and others are easier with a therapist or other trained practitioner directing the exercise in a group or one-on-one setting.

Rabinor and Bilich continue, “We have found that guided imagery is a powerful but underutilized tool that can transform one’s clinical work no matter what one’s theoretical orientation… Imagery is the language of the unconscious. It has long been known that imagery techniques tap into that deep level of consciousness that cannot be accessed by words alone, giving voice to the unconscious thoughts and feelings that may affect behavior.”

In my experience, guided imagery — especially when used in conjunction with evidence-based treatments like Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) or Internal Family Systems (IFS) — can help people access deeper layers of awareness, insight, and healing than they’re able to reach with purely cognitive approaches.

EMDR with a Therapist

With EMDR, a widely-renowned trauma therapy modality, imagery is a key component of the protocol. While it’s important to allow space for the client’s experience to organically flow where it needs to, a well-trained therapist can deepen the healing work by skillfully guiding the client through the session, often involving rescuing or reparenting the younger wounded self.

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