step-by-step guide for when you're feeling overwhelmed

step-by-step guide for when you're feeling overwhelmed

There are a lot of things that can and need to be done to prevent the dreaded state of #overwhelmed. To name just a few —

  • Setting boundaries (and saying "no" in general),
  • Sticking with a routine,
  • Staying organized,
  • Having good systems for task management,
  • Getting enough sleep

Some of those necessities are pretty lame (I love getting lots of sleep, but I don't love early bedtime), and others are kind of fun and interesting if you're a productivity and personal development dork like me.

But even when we have good practices in place, the truth is that there is no magic bullet of "if you do this, you'll never feel overwhelmed again!" 

Whether it's a new baby, a nasty virus, a family emergency, a nightmare co-worker, second trimester morning sickness, a big work deadline, or any other kind of unexpected curveball — shit happens that makes even the best laid Overwhelm Prevention Plans go to hell in a hand basket.

So if you're already in the thick of it, what do you do?

Of course, again there is no magic bullet or one-size-fits-all advice, but below are a few important tips and reminders when you find yourself feeling like you're in the weeds on a Saturday night in your first waitressing gig.

1. Take 5...

...breaths, that is. Before anything else, you need to get the oxygen flowing with 5 deep, slow breaths. Make sure to breathe into your belly, not just high up ion your chest, and try to match the length of your inhale with the length of the exhale, pausing briefly before each exhale. This will start to immediately regulate your nervous system so you can think more clearly about the next steps to take.

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plan a wedding without freaking out (mostly) + my wedding photos

plan a wedding without freaking out (mostly) + my wedding photos

I got married seven weeks ago, so I'm still getting that question, "What does it feel like to be married?" My usual answer is, "Pretty much the same, but more like I'm a legit adult." Since Chris and I had been living together for a while before and had felt deeply committed to each other already, our relationship doesn't feel that different. But as a person who struggles with Adult Impostor Syndrome (wait, am I a *real* grown-up? Are you sure?), it did feel like a rite of passage. And the actual day was pure magic and completely exceeded any expectations I had. I thought I'd write a post describing some of the best pieces of wisdom I can share from my own experience for anyone planning a wedding or another big event. 

Wedding Planning Tip #1: When you start to feel stressed or rigid, get back to what really matters.

I am admittedly Type A in some ways, and not exactly low-maintenance. I'm a nester and prefer things to be a certain way. But thankfully, I've also loosened up quite a bit as I've matured.

Case in point: At my sixth-grade birthday party I so meticulously planned (see Exhibit A below), my friends did not want to stick with my regimented schedule of activities, and I got so upset I ended up crying alone in my room. (This was not the only year this happened.)

(click through to read full post and see my 6th grade insanity!) 

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