video blog: self-forgiveness and letting go


As Yom Kippur or the "Day of Atonement" approaches, I'm inspired by ancient Jewish traditions such as Tashlich ("casting off" and letting go of wrongdoings from the past year) and the majestic Aramaic prayer, Kol Nidre. In this video I discuss these traditions, how they connect to self-forgiveness, and I share an excerpt from Franciscan priest and author Richard Rohr's The Art of Letting Go. Thanks to First Unitarian Universalist Church of Nashville for the inspiration for this video from today's service, and for being my home for spiritual education and expansion. (And leave it to UU to beautifully blend Jewish, Christian, and non-traditional messages and practices into the service!)

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As mentioned in the video, I highly recommend listening to a Kol Nidre recording if you're not familiar with it. I particularly love this one arranged for cello and harp and this also-amazing-and-entirely-different a capella version.

As the earth shifts into a new season and the trees let go of their leaves, what are you needing to let go of? What do you need to forgive yourself or another for (or ask forgiveness for) in order to be fully honest with yourself and present for each new day?

video blog: defusing from life-sucking thoughts

Today I'm excited to post my very first video blog, focused on the concept "defusion" from Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT). When you're really hooked by thoughts that are not helping you move in the direction of the life you want (whether the thoughts are true or not), practicing various defusion techniques can be a way to unhook and get a little distance from the thoughts so you're not totally consumed by them. Ultimately, defusion helps you to be able to exist with the thoughts (good luck just trying to banish those thoughts entirely... you'll likely make yourself even more frustrated if that's your goal!) AND still choose the actions and behaviors that lead you in the direction of a functional and fulfilling life. If positive affirmations don't always work well for you, give defusion a try. Hope you enjoy this brief intro!

For more info and tons of great ideas for practicing defusion in your everyday life, check out The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris.